On the Cusp of Tweendom

Wednesday, March 11, 2020

Sunday was absolutely gorgeous. However, we pretty much just bummed around the house because Nolie was sick, and I was having some issues of my own. That afternoon, Eric threw some clothes on to take the trash out to the curb (my kids would spend the entire day in their underwear if I let them). When he came back in, my breath caught a bit. There wasn't anything terribly unusual about his outfit (hoodie, basketball shorts, Sauconys), but it was how he looked in it that threw me off.

He looked like a full-blown tween.

Eric is, admittedly, big for his age, but I just looked at my eight-year-old boy, and all I could think was he looks so GROWN.

It's not like it hasn't been sneaking up on us in other ways. He's been a lot more aware of how he looks lately, both in what he wears and what his body looks like. A couple of weeks ago, Tom had him use his deodorant because he was sweating more than usual. He's been hinting that he may be developing a crush on a girl at school. He needed his first med change. He seems to grow an inch a week. His friend group has branched out significantly. He's been trying to assert his independence by attempting (unsuccessfully) to convince us that he can stay home alone and trying to get us to understand why he NEEDS his own phone (as if).

Before my eyes, my little boy has suddenly become...not so little.

And I am in no way prepared for parenting a tween.

We're on the verge of sex talks. And drug discussions. And then having those discussions over and over to make sure it sinks in (because, bless his heart, he is absolutely the kind of kid who, if offered a cigarette or pills or something, would cheerfully say "Okay!" and take it so he wouldn't hurt the feelings of the person who offered it).

It feels like it's all coming so quickly, and I'm just not ready for it.

So moms of tweens -- any advice? I need all the help I can get!

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